If you struggle with addiction to drugs or alcohol, the chances are that areas of your life have started to feel the consequences of your addictive behaviors. Often, relationships are the first to be affected by addiction. Individuals addicted to drugs or alcohol will lie, cheat, and steal from those who they love only to be provided with their drug of choice. Once individuals stop using drugs or alcohol, it can be difficult to start rebuilding trust that was lost to addiction. For this reason, there are some helpful techniques that recovering individuals can use to help with rebuilding trust in lost relationships and maintaining trust in new relationships.
Honesty: The Secret Key
First and foremost, if you wish for any relationship to be healthy and worthwhile, you must remain honest at all times. Especially to those who knew you while you were in active addiction, honesty is vital to repairing broken relationships. It may be difficult for people that you have once lied to before to believe that you are being completely honest. But, if you keep with it, they will eventually see that you are true to your word. Even in the hardest situations, tell the truth. It is always easier keeping up with the truth than keeping up with a lie.
Be Willing to Open Up
If you are not willing to share your thoughts and emotions, other will be unwilling to do the same to you. Being open will show others that you really do care and will also allow others to open up to you. To remain open, allow yourself to be an active listener. This means that instead of forming a response in your mind, you are actively engaging in what the other person has to say. This will show that you truly care about what they are talking about and give them further reason to trust you. Also, proper communication allows relationships to work. If you are always open to honesty and your feelings, there will likely never be misunderstandings.
Be Judgement Free
Once your loved ones can tell that you are open to hearing their thoughts, feelings, and concerns, they may tell you things that you could criticize them for. Remember not to be too judgmental. Criticizing others’ beliefs, opinions, and feelings will allow them to be untrustful of you. Once your loved ones can see that they can talk to you about things that you may not be supportive of, they are more likely to trust you completely.
Own Up to Yourself
It can be hard to own up to things that you have done or said while in active addiction, but it is vital to the health of your relationships. Owning up to your own thoughts and actions will provide your loved ones with the knowledge that you are working towards becoming an accountable and trustworthy individual. Be quick to ask for forgiveness and to take accountability for hurting a loved one at all times.
You may have heard the phrase, “patience is a virtue”. Well, it is an important and necessary virtue to develop in addiction recovery. If you show patience and respect for others’ thoughts, opinions, and ideas they will likely show the same courtesy to you. Also, it may take time for your loved ones who you have hurt while in active addiction to forgive you and trust you once more. Be patient with them as being aggressive will only push them away further. It takes time to show others that you have changed. Also, it can take time for someone to be open to forgiveness. Try to picture how you would feel if you were standing in their shoes; show empathy for others as they try to learn forgiveness.
Rebuilding Trust in Addiction Treatment
If you are ready to get treatment for a drug or alcohol addiction so that you can start rebuilding trust in your damaged relationships, addiction treatment can help. Willow Place for Women knows how important relationships are to those in recovery which is why we implement family counseling. This gives our patients the opportunity to confront loved ones, discover different ways of communication, and learn how to rebuild trust in relationships. To learn more about our treatment services and options, please visit our website for more information. Also, if you have any questions for our professional staff, you can call us anytime at 561-512-1605.