One of the most challenging moments of addiction is actually coming to terms with the fact that you are struggling. When you can admit you’re struggling with addiction, you’ve already taken the first step to getting help and beginning your recovery journey. However, while identifying and admitting your addiction to yourself is hard, there’s something that may be even more difficult to face – telling your parents. If you’ve recently identified addiction as a major issue in your life you’d like to address and are wondering, “how in the world am I going to tell my parents or family about my addiction?”, Willow Place for Women can help.
In this blog, we’ll give you tips on how to approach your parents about your addiction. This way, you can start your recovery journey on the right foot, with the people who love you most right by your side.
Why Tell My Parents About My Addiction Struggles?
Obviously, those who are under the age of 18 must tell their parents if they are struggling with addiction to get the help they need. Parents are the legal guardians of their children, and until a child is 18, they’re not an adult. And, can’t make decisions, financially and legally, about the care they receive medically. This includes addiction treatment help. So, if you’re under the age of 18 and have realized you’re struggling with addiction, you’ll need to tell your parents eventually.
If you’re over the age of 18, you may think that keeping your addiction from your parents is more helpful than not. Most people fear their parents’ judgments or don’t want them to worry about them. However, it’s important to tell your parents about what you’re going through because support is essential during recovery. And, in most cases, parents can be the biggest outlets of support. So, telling your parents about your addiction and the help you are getting can keep them on board your team; allowing them to give you the vital support you need to remain encouraged and committed throughout your recovery.
Whether you’re over 18 or not, talking to your parents about addiction can be tough. But, there are a few things you can keep in mind that may help make this awkward and emotional conversation go a bit smoother.
Make Sure It’s the Right Time and Place
When you’re planning on talking to your parents about an addiction you’re facing, one of the things to consider is time. You’ll want to give your parents enough time to consider what you’re telling them and digest the information. So, you don’t want to spring it on them when they could be busy or have something to do later in the day. You also want to make sure you’re not in a crowded place, so you and your parents don’t feel awkward talking about personal issues in public. For example, have a sit-down dinner at their house, so you know that your parents don’t have any other plans that night and have made time just for you. And, so that you have the privacy you need to talk together.
Make Sure You’re Sober
It can be tempting to give yourself the courage you need to talk to your parents about addiction by getting high or drunk. But, it’s important to come to your parents about your addiction while you’re sober. This way, they’ll understand what you’re saying is truly sincere. And, committed to getting better and the help you need.
Tell Them the God’s Honest Truth
Addiction is a disease that can change a person – leading to lies and deceit. No doubt, if you’re struggling with addiction, your parents already know this. That’s why it’s so important to be honest now. If you’re honest with your parents about your addiction and what you’re experiencing, your parents will be more willing to hear you out and support you every step of the way. Not to mention, it’s great practice for the honesty you’ll have to show yourself while you’re getting professional help.
Say You’re Sorry
A part of the recovery process is recognizing those you’ve wronged and apologizing. While you may not get forgiveness, this is essential in being able to heal and move forward with recovery. And, as your parents are likely your biggest fans, they’re probably the people who deserve the first apology. Don’t feel ashamed to apologize for how your addictive lifestyle may have affected your parents while telling them about your addiction.
Have Backup Support
Are you afraid your parents won’t respond well to the conversation you’ll have about your struggle with addiction? If so, before speaking with them, make sure to tell a friend you trust about what you’re about to do. That way, you’ll have someone to talk to if it goes south. And, support on your side either way.
Find Support From Willow Place for Women
If you’re having trouble speaking with your parents about your addiction or have already spoken with your parents about your addiction, Willow Place for Women is here to help. We offer outpatient therapy and treatment services for women living with substance abuse disorder.
Learn more about how you can get the help you need to get sober and heal from addiction at our women’s-run healing facility right on our website. Or, give us a call today for a confidential conversation with one of our specialists at 1-888-651-4212.